Positive Self-Esteem

Years ago as a college student, I dreamed of buying a new Camaro. I believed if I acquired this car, I would be able to attract more females, win respect, and be popular on campus. I drove a Chevy and I was unhappy with it. I wanted a new car thinking my whole life would change. A few weeks later I decided I needed a wardrobe to go along with my new car. My old jeans and over-washed shirt just wouldn’t do anymore. Unfortunately, I was broke. Along with my new car and clothes, I thought a wallet of crisp fifty dollar bills would give me the motivation to be someone important. I kept adding on things to make me feel good. The problem was that I did not like myself. I wanted “things” to make me feel good. I rationalized and made excuses for myself.
The reality was that a new car would have never added true friends. New clothes probably would not have attracted beautiful females on the inside. A billfold of crisp fifty dollar bills would not have changed my internal lifestyle. Many people use objects to make them feel worthwhile. They buy houses, boats, jewelry, and clothing seeking to please themselves and others. Positive self-esteem is arrived from genuinely liking yourself. No object can increase or decrease your self-esteem. Your worth as a person is not determined by your wealth. If you are encountering people who rate you by where you live or the type of car you drive, remind yourself that this is not be the type of person you should be allowing into your inner influence circle. Quite possibly you can turn it around and teach them what is really important in life. Chances are their self-esteem is really low and they are trying to compensate. Try at all costs to avoid the trap that society sets for us. The fact that God gave you life and you and provided you a period of time to experience its many wonders should be enough for you to know you are a worthwhile person. Surround yourself with people who believe this and help reinforce your positive self-esteem.

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