Don’t Keep Life on Hold

I recently had a chance to talk with a nineteen year old young female. She had completed high school and was interested in earning a college degree.
At an early age, Kathy was already separated from her husband and had just delivered a healthy baby boy.
She was looking toward the future, but regarding her husband, she said, “I’ve given him an ultimatum and that will decide whether our marriage will work or not. Meanwhile, I’m on hold, waiting on his decision.”.
I asked, “When is Paul’s deadline for this decision?” Kathy responded, “Soon.”
As the conversation continued, I inquired about what kind of degree she wanted and she responded, “I want to study pre-¬med.”
Kathy was a 3.8 grade point high school student and obviously very intelligent. Now, she had been turned down by the military and was separated from her husband. Her marriage and her life were on hold as she waited for her husband to make up his mind.
Are you putting your life on hold waiting for someone to make a decision? In Kathy’s case she had been waiting almost a year for her husband to show responsible behavior. The best advice I could give anyone in a similar situation is to decide when you will move on. Sometimes you have to plan your life without a spouse or significant other.
Take charge of your family and move on for a better day. Goal-setting is a good place to begin.

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